Many people desire change. They may recognize, logically and cognitively, that altering a particular habit or behavior will bring them immense benefits. Yet, despite this awareness, they struggle to take the necessary steps. Why? Because if the change does not align with the self-image they have carefully crafted over time, it feels nearly impossible to achieve.

Take smoking, for example. You may fully understand that smoking is harmful to your health. Research and medical advice consistently highlight the risks: of lung disease, cardiovascular problems, and even a reduced lifespan. You may even want to quit, knowing that it would improve your well-being. But if you started smoking because it reinforced a particular identity, perhaps one of rebellion, independence, or social belonging, then quitting is not just about breaking a habit; it’s about redefining who you are. And that can be terrifying.

We can take multiple approaches to change: behavioral strategies, cognitive reframing, and emotional regulation techniques. However, at its core, transformation demands something much deeper. It takes courage. The courage to accept that the way we have viewed ourselves for so long may no longer serve us. The courage to let go of an outdated self-image and embrace the unknown.

Therapy is not about sugarcoating reality or offering simple solutions. It is about setting things straight, helping you see the patterns that may be holding you back, and empowering you to decide how far you want to go. In this process, you may uncover things about yourself that you do not like. And that’s okay. True growth requires embracing all aspects of who you are—the strengths, the struggles, and the uncomfortable truths.

Change is not a single act but an ongoing journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and resilience. It’s about learning to trust yourself, even when the path ahead is uncertain. The most transformative changes often come when we step beyond our comfort zones and allow ourselves to grow into the person we truly want to be.

Disclaimer: This post is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. My posts reflect my stance as a professional, and if you choose to work with me as your mental health professional, this would be my approach. For more details, you can refer to the contact page.