It is not a secret that each year technology integrates exponentially into our lives. Listening to the Atlantic’s podcast “The Complexities of human love,” kindled my inspiration to write about the relationship between technology and human connection. Mr. Omri Gillath, a social psychologist, stated that “Romantic love blossoms when people explore their differences.” What he meant was that one of the ways that people are naturally attracted to each other is by complementarity with the other person. 

He then explained that statistically, people are using dating apps since they provide opportunities, accessibility, and convenience to meet people. However, the way people have been using technology, dating apps do not necessarily give you what you need since you match the similarities of your personality rather than your complementary traits. 

Historically, technology has been used as a medium to provide a better quality of life by finding a solution to a complex problem. Misusing technology and having unrealistic expectations of what it can offer may backfire on our experience. Having said that, if you choose to use dating apps to initiate an opportunity, then also be aware that the experience of the relationship cannot be sustained via the black mirror. 

It is essential to mention that each individual case is different. This post does not substitute any professional mental help. The needs and boundaries of each individual are different and any guidance should be tailored to your personality.